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Have you ever heard the saying “walk a mile in my shoes?” I think it is a very good saying. Do you know what it means? It means, that before you judge someone, you should put yourself in his or her position. For example, if someone was running in a race, and they did very poorly and came in last it wouldn’t be fair to say, “oh, he’s just a terrible runner.” You would have to look at all the circumstances that made the person lose the race. Maybe they pulled a muscle in their leg the day before; maybe this is their very first race; maybe they are not in good form because something isn’t right in their lives. There can be so many things that affect a person’s life, performance and moods. If someone was very quiet at a party, you couldn’t just assume that they weren’t friendly. You don’t know what is happening in their lives. They could be feeling ill, or they might have just had a bad experience. Nobody can know exactly how another person feels. Even if someone tells you what he or she is experiencing, you still won’t fully understand what is going on inside the other person. Everyone perceives and feels things differently. To walk a mile in someone else’s shoes is to try and understand things from that person’s perspective. We are all shaped by the events that have taken place in our lives. No two people have gone through the exact same things. So, before you are quick to judge someone, stop and think about what it is that they might have gone through. You won’t always understand why people do what they do, but you can try to understand and put yourself in their position.